When to take Control of Your Life

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When should you take Control of Your Life?

Every decision we make molds and shapes our destiny. We were given free choice and this gift brings responsibility. Each person on this earth has found themselves in a predicament at one time or another, and by acknowledging the moment of truth you will be called to take action – or rather – to take control of your life.

When do you know that the time has come to take control of your life?


  • Someone is riding roughshod over you, and tries to control you
  • Bullying (you or the other)
  • Things left unsaid after an argument
  • Not standing up for what you believe in
  • A relationship that does not serve your highest good


  • You are not able to manage your finances
  • You are carrying other people’s debt


  • A habit of drug addiction that is destroying your life and those around you
  • Compulsive behaviour
  • Dependency


  • A health crisis – any chronic disease
  • Nightmares and emotional problems
  • Not taking care of yourself
  • Race thoughts and overactive thinking


  • Life seems mundane and uninteresting
  • There seems to be no purpose in your life
  • Staying in a dead-end job
  • Denying your creativity

If any of these factors manifest themselves in your life right now, it is time to take control of your life. Other people are there to support and assist you, so ask for help when you need it. YOU have to make the choice.

By acknowledging that your ship’s steering is out of kilter – you’ve already taken the first step. Let go of the fear, change will bring a positive outcome, as long as you follow the Compass of your spirit, and have as intention the desire to be the captain of your own ship.

Ahoy ahead Captain!

Take control of your life – The hour is now

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Take control of your life – The Best Time is now

“Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task.” 

~William James. 1886 ~

I am one of many people that feel that soon/one day/ next week/ by noon I will be more organised, take control of all the tasks that clog up the consciousness, and then I will be an altogether more effective and therefore much nicer and considerate person. We have become so good at procrastination that we have developed it into an art form: What Don Marquis calls “The art of keeping up with yesterday.”

NOT taking control of my life has 3 major strategies:

  • Excuse making:

These are the rationalizations we invent (often very plausible ones) for failing to take action or responsibility. We blame external conditions/other people for our inner lack.

  • Not knowing where to start:

There are so many aspects to leading a fulfilling, happy, successful life that we are (often legitimately) overwhelmed by everything that has to be dealt with.

  • Living in the past:

Previous failures haunt many people.

Taking control of your life has 3 countering strategies:

  • NEVER blame

Take full responsibility for your life. Everybody has challenges from the external world, even though the grass always looks greener on the other side. Our colleagues, partner, or children are not perfect, but very few people can honestly claim that theirs are.


Do not wait until circumstances/ the weather are ideal, the children grown up or you have lost ten kilos. Do one thing and finish it within the next hour. Even if it is merely tidying your desk or sorting the correspondence/unpaid invoices, DO IT NOW. It does not matter whether it is in the field of relationships, health, finances or career. Being productive give you energy, and makes you more optimistic about the next task.

  • FORGIVE YOURSELF for past failures

Nobody remembers or cares. Everybody has failed in some area of their lives. Let it GO!

 Do not wait for anybody else to do anything. Set realistic goals and do it yourself. 

“Only Robinson Crusoe had everything done by Friday.”